How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed: A Journal for Grief
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- Author：Megan Devine
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Summary
An illustrated journal for meeting grief with honesty and kindness—honoring loss， rather than packing it away
With her breakout book It’s OK That You’re Not OK， Megan Devine struck a chord with thousands of readers through her honest， validating approach to grief。 In her same direct， no-platitudes style， she now offers How to Carry What Can’t Be Fixed—a journal filled with unique， creative ways to open a dialogue with grief itself。 “Being allowed to tell the truth about your grief is an incredibly powerful act，” she says。 “This journal enables you to tell your whole story， without the need to tack on a happy ending where there isn’t one。”
Grief is a natural response to death and loss—it’s not an illness to be cured or a problem to be fixed。 This workbook contains no clichés， timetables， or checklists of stages to get through; it won’t help you “move past” or put your loss behind you。 Instead， you’ll find encouragement， self-care exercises， and daily tools， including:
• Writing prompts to help you honor your pain and heartbreak
• On-the-spot practices for tough situations—like grocery store trips， the sleepless nights， and being the “awkward guest”
• The art of healthy distraction and self-care
• What you can do when you worry that “moving on” means “letting go of love”
• Practical advice for fielding the dreaded “How are you doing？” question
• What it means to find meaning in your loss
• How to hold joy and grief at the same time
• Tear-and-share resources to help you educate friends and allies
• The “Griever’s Bill of Rights，” and much more
Your grief， like your love， belongs to you。 No one has the right to dictate， judge， or dismiss what is yours to live。 How to Carry What Can’t Be Fixed is a journal and everyday companion to help you enter a conversation with your grief， find your own truth， and live into the life you didn’t ask for—but is here nonetheless。
With her breakout book It’s OK That You’re Not OK， Megan Devine struck a chord with thousands of readers through her honest， validating approach to grief。 In her same direct， no-platitudes style， she now offers How to Carry What Can’t Be Fixed—a journal filled with unique， creative ways to open a dialogue with grief itself。 “Being allowed to tell the truth about your grief is an incredibly powerful act，” she says。 “This journal enables you to tell your whole story， without the need to tack on a happy ending where there isn’t one。”
Grief is a natural response to death and loss—it’s not an illness to be cured or a problem to be fixed。 This workbook contains no clichés， timetables， or checklists of stages to get through; it won’t help you “move past” or put your loss behind you。 Instead， you’ll find encouragement， self-care exercises， and daily tools， including:
• Writing prompts to help you honor your pain and heartbreak
• On-the-spot practices for tough situations—like grocery store trips， the sleepless nights， and being the “awkward guest”
• The art of healthy distraction and self-care
• What you can do when you worry that “moving on” means “letting go of love”
• Practical advice for fielding the dreaded “How are you doing？” question
• What it means to find meaning in your loss
• How to hold joy and grief at the same time
• Tear-and-share resources to help you educate friends and allies
• The “Griever’s Bill of Rights，” and much more
Your grief， like your love， belongs to you。 No one has the right to dictate， judge， or dismiss what is yours to live。 How to Carry What Can’t Be Fixed is a journal and everyday companion to help you enter a conversation with your grief， find your own truth， and live into the life you didn’t ask for—but is here nonetheless。
Reviews
Alicia Bayer
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This will be a great book for some folks and I recommend using something like Amazon's "look inside" feature to see if you're one of them。 Those who enjoy drawing and journaling will probably find it enormously helpful。 I was really hoping to find it personally hopeful but it didn't do much for me personally。 I am grieving a big list of people -- many good friends and my grandmother in the past few years and most recently both of my husband's parents， not to mention the long-ago loss of both of This will be a great book for some folks and I recommend using something like Amazon's "look inside" feature to see if you're one of them。 Those who enjoy drawing and journaling will probably find it enormously helpful。 I was really hoping to find it personally hopeful but it didn't do much for me personally。 I am grieving a big list of people -- many good friends and my grandmother in the past few years and most recently both of my husband's parents， not to mention the long-ago loss of both of my parents， my aunt's murder， a dozen miscarriages and what feels sometimes like an endless stream of deaths that I carry。 My husband is still really struggling with the loss of his parents last fall and I am so tired of the weight of grief。I can't imagine my husband doing any of the pages of this book but I do enjoy journaling and art， and I had hoped that something in it might help me feel a little lighter in using the title's metaphor。 There were a few pages that resonated with me like one of little boxes where you write the quotes that give you the most comfort but a lot of it just didn't speak to me。 There are little cards you can cut out to tell loved ones how you're feeling or what you need， or places to write about who your grief mentor is or what your grief mentor would be like if you had one， etc。 There's lots of information about grief and it would be helpful if I didn't already know so much about it， but knowing and changing anything are different things。 Ultimately， I know I've been looking for some sort of magic that doesn't exist。 It hurts forever。 Sometimes it hurts less （I recommend looking up the ball in the box analogy if you don't know it already， it's comforting for me and my husband）。 I don't know that journaling and drawing helps that but I hope it does help many people。 For me personally， it wasn't the panacea that I was hoping for， but I think it could be extremely helpful for others， especially young people who are newer to grief and who find drawing and journaling helpful。I read a temporary digital ARC of this book for review。 。。。more
Vanessa
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I had to take my time with this book… Not because it was long or difficult to read on its own， but because I’ve been going through a prolonged period of grief myself and it was… difficult to take in a lot of the things being said。However， I think “How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed: A Journal for Grief” is helpful， especially if you can get it in physical format/printed， as it has several things you can literally take from it and add to a journal， to a pinboard or just to keep as reminders。Grief i I had to take my time with this book… Not because it was long or difficult to read on its own， but because I’ve been going through a prolonged period of grief myself and it was… difficult to take in a lot of the things being said。However， I think “How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed: A Journal for Grief” is helpful， especially if you can get it in physical format/printed， as it has several things you can literally take from it and add to a journal， to a pinboard or just to keep as reminders。Grief is always a difficult thing to talk and to navigate。 There is no right or wrong way to do it。 While we’re grieving， as I currently am， we feel particularly vulnerable， and some people in society may seek to invalidate or diminish the importance/significance of our grief。 Obviously， we don’t need anyone’s validation to grieve and to feel the way we do， but when we’re vulnerable， the smallest comment can make us feel even worse， and I appreciated that this book made me feel somewhat ‘validated’ in my emotions and my grief and that no one has the right to tell me how to feel， act or how ‘quickly’ I need to process my grief。There is no ‘solution’ for grief， no time limit， no path to go through it， because we all feel and experience loss uniquely。 No 2 people grieve in the same way， and it’s very hurtful that some really do want us to ‘snap out’ of our emotions and pain according to their views and what they believe to be appropriate timing。I found it helpful and I think anyone who has suffered a loss， no matter if it’s a human or animal loss， will benefit from a lot of what is in this journal。Thank you kindly to NetGalley and the publisher for allowing me to read this in exchange for my opinion and honest review。#HowtoCarryWhatCantBeFixed #NetGalley 。。。more
Daman
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I really loved this book/journal— Devine has really used her experiences and turned them into empathy for everyone going through tough times， loss， and grief。 The exercises in this journal seemed really helpful （I can't comment on all of them because some of them were not accessible in the e-ARC version I got。） But regardless， I think it is a book that can provide valuable support when we are ready to receive it。 I really loved this book/journal— Devine has really used her experiences and turned them into empathy for everyone going through tough times， loss， and grief。 The exercises in this journal seemed really helpful （I can't comment on all of them because some of them were not accessible in the e-ARC version I got。） But regardless， I think it is a book that can provide valuable support when we are ready to receive it。 。。。more
Keira S
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I am moved by the words Megan Devine has inscribed in this book。 Since it stems out of her personal experience， as a reader I feel the same raw emotions coursing through me。 Even though it is specifically written for individuals who are grieving， I believe her words are universal to us all。 Sure， the illustration/drawing parts are something I would struggle with， I am not much of a drawer but other exercises are helpful。 It helps you stay grounded and work through your feelings。 Not everything i I am moved by the words Megan Devine has inscribed in this book。 Since it stems out of her personal experience， as a reader I feel the same raw emotions coursing through me。 Even though it is specifically written for individuals who are grieving， I believe her words are universal to us all。 Sure， the illustration/drawing parts are something I would struggle with， I am not much of a drawer but other exercises are helpful。 It helps you stay grounded and work through your feelings。 Not everything is mandatory when it comes to working with this book which is a good thing。 Thank you Netgalley and the Publisher for a complimentary ARC in exchange for an honest review。 。。。more
Trina
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Megan Devine has written an amazing book。 This workbook allows you to pace yourself as you work through grief and loss。 I found that this book was written in such a way as it was open to allow a person to process any kind of loss that they had。 I was able to use some of the exercises from this book for simple losses， like processing an upcoming move and complex long term grief。 As a therapist， I'll use some of the exercises in this journal with clients， and in my own personal journey。 I'll recom Megan Devine has written an amazing book。 This workbook allows you to pace yourself as you work through grief and loss。 I found that this book was written in such a way as it was open to allow a person to process any kind of loss that they had。 I was able to use some of the exercises from this book for simple losses， like processing an upcoming move and complex long term grief。 As a therapist， I'll use some of the exercises in this journal with clients， and in my own personal journey。 I'll recommend this book for absolutely everyone， weather your grief is fresh or something that you've been dealing with for a long time。 This book covers all the stages of grief and allows a person to open the chapter of the stages of grief in this book。 Pick it up for yourself。 。。。more
Literary Redhead
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An absolutely brilliant resource for grieving people。 Megan Devine is a global expert in the area， and understands deep loss personally。 Her partner drowned in a river tragedy in 2009， and his death propelled her to explore and create grief support that heals。 Her newest book is a journal meant to walk alongside the reader during the grief process。 It’s filled with helpful prompts for writing out your feelings， self-care strategies， daily tips， and so much more。 No platitudes， no checklists or t An absolutely brilliant resource for grieving people。 Megan Devine is a global expert in the area， and understands deep loss personally。 Her partner drowned in a river tragedy in 2009， and his death propelled her to explore and create grief support that heals。 Her newest book is a journal meant to walk alongside the reader during the grief process。 It’s filled with helpful prompts for writing out your feelings， self-care strategies， daily tips， and so much more。 No platitudes， no checklists or timetables to “put loss behind you。” Just the real real。 Most highly recommended！5 of 5 StarsPub Date 18 May 2021#HowtoCarryWhatCantBeFixed #NetGalleyThanks to the author， Sounds True， and NetGalley for the ARC， in exchange for my honest review。 。。。more
Ashley Dang
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